The White Lotus Girls Trip: How Vacations Can Ruin Friendships

Friends fighting on vacation is more common than you might think, and it’s not just a trope in shows like “The White Lotus.” Vacations have a real knack for putting strains on relationships, even the strongest ones. Why does this happen? Well, when you’re traveling, a lot of the usual boundaries that keep our friendships intact tend to disappear, according to Eman Almusawi, a therapist at A Better Life Therapy.

“Friendships rely on a balance of closeness and personal space,” Almusawi says. “When that balance gets disrupted, especially on vacation, people may react in unexpected ways.” That’s why routines play a crucial role in managing emotions and preserving relationships. But when we’re out of our familiar environment, it’s way too easy to slip into a more emotional state, making conflicts more likely.

Take, for example, Christie Tate’s experience when she went on a trip to San Francisco with a friend. Tate felt judged for not spending as much money as her friend, who had booked them a hotel that was out of Tate’s budget. Money matters can quickly turn toxic in friendships, as Tate learned first-hand. These disagreements over expenses and expectations can really take a toll on a trip. Ultimately, Tate says she gained some important communication skills from the experience but realized that dealing with conflict wasn’t how she wanted to spend her vacation.

Despite the potential for conflict, vacations also offer a unique opportunity for bonding outside your comfort zone. As tour guide Danielle Oteri puts it, a good trip is like a heightened version of life, showcasing both the best and worst in people. It might lead to clashes, but it also creates unforgettable moments that you wouldn’t get in your everyday routine.

So, how can you ensure your next trip won’t end in ruined friendships? According to travel experts, it all comes down to communication. Have open discussions about money, expectations, and any potential triggers before you hit the road. By addressing these issues upfront, you can minimize the chances of conflicts arising and make the most of your time away with friends.