Understanding Grieving and Dementia: Coping with Loss Before Death
In a recent interview, Kola Bokinni, known for his role in Ted Lasso, shared his personal experiences with grief and his father’s battle with vascular dementia. His dad, Taiwo, was a beloved figure in their Peckham community, known for his after-school maths lessons and warm, inviting home.
Kola reminisced about his father’s smell—fresh newspapers, old cologne, and cigarettes—and how it triggers memories of him. He also spoke about the importance of smell and sound in connecting us to our past. Growing up next to his mum’s pub in Peckham, Kola became street smart, exposed to adult environments at a young age.
Describing his dad’s version of masculinity, Kola mentioned his father’s organization, work ethic, and strong moral values. Despite working long hours at John Lewis, Taiwo always made time for his friends and family. Kola fondly recalled his dad’s Monday tradition of hosting friends for drinks and discussing Nigerian politics.
The actor highlighted the significance of Peckham as a safe haven for immigrants and marginalized communities, where families like his could carve out a better life. Reflecting on his own upbringing, Kola emphasized the role his father played in providing a sense of stability and belonging in a challenging environment.
Through his candid interview, Kola Bokinni shared a heartfelt tribute to his father and the impact he had on his life and the lives of others in their community.
